Today’s “Dear Abby” features a question about serving vegan food at a wedding, and whether or not it’s “selfish” and unfair to guests.
Personally, hubby and I featured both vegetarian and meat dishes at our wedding in October. We had about half a dozen guests attend who requested the vegetarian stuffed portobello mushroom for their main entree… and we made sure half of the hor d’oeuvres served were vegetarian as well. If my hubby was vegetarian or vegan, I would’ve pushed more for a complete veg*n wedding, but since he’s an omnivore, and it was his day too, I felt it only fair for both of our food choices to be represented.
I think it should be the choice of the bride.
I give my friends vegan food when they visit and when I visit them I make do with veggies or salad so why should a wedding be any different?
Great post, very interesting. I got married last May, one month before I went veg, and I WISH I would have been vegan sooner and could have served an awesome vegan meal at our party!
I’m of the mindset that both should be served.
As long as the bride and groom agree, then I think whatever food they choose is fine. It’s their wedding! I think it’s silly to expect vegetarians/vegans to serve meat at their wedding, especially considering that many vegetarians don’t eat meat because of moral/ethical reasons. Should they be expected to go against their morals just because grandpa doesn’t eat meat? If they are vegetarians because of health/dietary reasons, then, yes, I would expect that meat would be served as well. That’s my rant!
Actually, I take that last part back! If a person is vegetarian because of health reasons I still think that they should be allowed to have a vegetarian only wedding, if that’s what they want. Again, it’s their wedding! Okay, I’m done now.
I think if both the bride and groom are vegan, its totally fine to go with an all vegan wedding. If one of each, doing both is great too. The thing is, if two meat eaters get married, no one questions if there’s no vegetarian option
Its fair the other way around too, plus its their wedding they should have it just as they like! And remember, you can’t please EVERYone all the time. lol
I think if the bride and groom are both vegans/vegetarians, then they shouldn’t have to serve meat if it’s against their morals. I’m sure people could handle one meal a year without meat; though not many meat eaters that I know think that way.
If it’s a omni/veggie wedding, then I’d say whatever the couple decide on would be fine. If I marry an omni, I think I’d be ok with there being meat and veggie choices on the menu. Not as happy as I would be if it were a total vegan wedding, but I wouldn’t want to force my hubby to choose.
When I cook for my omni family on Thanksgiving and Christmas- it has always been vegan… because I am doing all the cooking, and find it repulsive to cook meat. But I always try my best to make it a tasty meal with plenty of meat-like proteins. If they are negative about it, all I can say is- it’s once or twice a year that they can tolerate eating with compassion, health, and the environment in mind. I think I put a LOT more consideration into pleasing everyone than they would if I were invited to their homes! In my book, an omni eating vegan is a kind, selfless act- and if they view it as being an inconvenience or a burden, then THEY are being selfish- not the other way around!
Amen!